Dear Abby: Sorry son, your GF’s condition annoys us
Dear Abby My son is and a senior in college He s a baseball participant and is about to ask the girl he s been dating for a year and a half to marry him My wife and I don t get along with her at all She has a myriad of robustness problems and takes eight prescriptions a day Because of her conditions she rarely has the power to do anything but lie around when she comes to our house She used to have a job packing groceries at a domain and she would frequently log to miles a day walking She quit that job for a job at an ice cream shop where she does little walking We had a get-together at my other son s house and she declared she couldn t come because she was too tired My wife sent my son a message saying Really From scooping ice cream The girlfriend needed to use my son s phone and saw the message Her feelings were hurt and now she will have nothing to do with us They still expect us to pay for their wedding and for gas and maintenance on his car to visit her parents almost daily We want to encouragement our son but we are over it with her There is so much more I could tell you Please help Dad Who s Over It Dear Dad If your son s fiancee is taking eight medications a day she has real wellness problems Her fatigue is likely part of it It s a shame she can t perform up to your expectations Under the circumstances I can understand why she would be hurt by your wife s comment If you want to patronage your son apologize to her I should also point out that if your son is not self-supporting he is not yet financially prepared for the responsibilities that marriage brings with it His fiancee may be willing to help but her income is limited right now and could diminish to nothing if she becomes sicker Given the current situation it might be better if the wedding were postponed Dear Abby My brother and his wife have three adult children When his youngest daughter got married several years ago my sisters and I were not invited to the bridal shower We were recounted it was because it was too costly but it still caused hurt feelings on our side I know her other aunts were invited Should I say anything to my brother I m only asking because now his eldest daughter is engaged I assume my sisters and I will again be excluded I just keep wondering if they don t like us or what happened I don t remember doing anything to them growing up or speaking ill of them or their mother Must I just let it go and move on Uninvited in Pennsylvania Dear Uninvited Rather than wait and wonder call your brother and congratulate him on his daughter s engagement When you do tell him you and your sisters would love to come to the shower His response will tell you what you need to know If it doesn t follow up that question with another about whether you may have done anything to cause a rift in the family Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
